Around The Bend.

December 22, 2016 - Blog -

Like many of you, I’m starting to set my mind toward 2017. I’m eagerly anticipating the possibilities of this new year.  I’m also keenly aware of the scripture in Proverbs that says “We can make our plans, but the LORD determines our steps.”  Trust me, 2016 didn’t go anything like I had planned 🙂

So, this year, I don’t really have any specific “plans” or new year’s “resolutions.” I have completely handed my future to God. I’m learning to detach myself from outcomes and expectations for my future, and just rest in the awareness that God is in charge and it’s okay for things to not go as planned. For the first time in my life, I’m completely confident and comfortable living in the “now.” I’m so thankful for every moment, right here, right now. I’m convinced that this is one of the keys to having peace.

Even still, there are a few things occupying my mind as it relates to next year. These are personal things, not church things. And they are not “plans” per se, but they are taking up space in my brain and I thought I’d take a moment to share them with you.

#1 – Traveling & Adventure

I’m expecting to board more planes in 2017 than ever in my life. God recently blessed me with a pretty sweet travel benefit that I plan to leverage for mission work, as well as personal adventure. I’m already calling 2017 the “year of adventure” for me. I’m gonna visit cities I’ve never been to, preach in countries I’ve never preached in, and probably film myself doing back flips at different locations across the world. And I’m gonna use my new sweet GoPro camera that Todd Davis bought me to record and upload my adventures! So go ahead and unfollow me online if you don’t want to see it! 😉

#2 – Fitness

Two years ago I surveyed a bunch of men in their 40s. I asked “what are your biggest regrets from your thirties?” The vast majority of the men indicated that their biggest regret was not paying attention to their health and fitness. So I decided then that my thirties would be the fittest decade of my life. And so far it has been. In the past 2 years my Body fat percentage went from 26% to 17%. And I expect to be below 15% by Summer of 2017. In 2017 I have some pretty big goals including completing the Spartan “tri-fecta”, competing in the “Battle of the Boro” at Crossfit Goldsboro, and maybe, maybe, possibly participating in the Half Iron-Man in Raleigh (still not certain about his one, lol)

#3 – Dating?

Hmmm. Most of my friends and family are aware that this past year I entered the big wide world of divorced thirty-somethings. OH WHAT FUN. (<— that’s sarcasm.) Haha. Anyway, I keep getting asked questions about where I am regarding the whole dating thing, so I thought I’d take a moment while I’m here to share a few thoughts:

  1. I do not “need” to date. I’m perfectly content waking up everyday, drinking coffee, reading my Bible, going to work, hitting the gym, and then going to bed. I could literally do this the rest of my life and be content.
  2. I don’t want to be “set up” with your single friend. I’m sure she’s a nice girl, but I’m already not interested. lol
  3. I DO believe that one day I’ll want to be married again and obviously being open to new relationships is an important step in that process.
  4. When and if I do date someone, I will do it privately. Please respect that 🙂
  5. Last thought. For many of you who are reading this, I am your pastor. And it is very likely that you probably have some expectations of me regarding this subject. You may think I should wait a certain amount of “time”, or you may think there is a certain “type” of person I should consider. Or you might have an expectation of me that I’m not aware of regarding dating, re-marriage, or whatever. Can I just go ahead and warn you? I’m not gonna do this the way you want me to. Whatever your expectations are, I probably won’t meet them. So it may be beneficial of you to let go of your expectations. I mean that sincerely.

Ok, back to the purpose of this post. One reality that I’m becoming more and more comfortable with is that ANYTHING can happen in 2017. I could get sick and not be able to travel. I could get hit by a bus and have to focus on things other than fitness. God may call me to a life of single-hood and celibacy. WHO KNOWS what might happen? The truth is, you and I never really know what’s around the bend.  

What are some of the things that are occupying your mind regarding 2017? How will you make those things a reality? Will you be fully satisfied if none of your plans actually play out the way you expect?

Cheers to an unpredictable 2017 🙂


  • Ben

    I've got this friend, if you're into long hair and big biceps. His name is Adam. <3 You

    December 22, 2016
  • Dan Williams

    Well, said Bill. Our plans have already been written and we are on His plan not ours. Every day I wake up thankful for another sober day and to be able to try to be more like Him. It has been a blessing to find you and Oasis. Whatever God has written for you I hope it brings more people to Christ. For me, I hope I can continue on this path He has put me on to get people healthy. Our body is the temple for our soul and we want to do our best to keep our temple strong so we can continue His work. Keep it up brother.

    December 22, 2016
  • Mark Hale

    I have learned at actually like, one day at a time! Sweet Jesus!

    December 22, 2016
  • Racquel Castner

    Bill well said. As our pastor, thank you for being honest. One reason why I love our church. Just recently I realized how important it was to live in the "now" to have peace and peace is a great feeling.

    December 23, 2016
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