Some People Left

August 31, 2017 - Blog -

I have a hard time when people leave. Maybe its my orphan past or some other insecurity? I don’t know! But I do know that one of the most challenging pieces of pastoring for me is continuing to stay focused and encouraged even when it feels like the people who I’m investing in or trust will eventually just randomly disappear.

I (and many others) have poured my heart and soul into this church. And while I know it’s not perfect, I still sort of take it personal when people leave for some reason. But I’m learning to just let go.

Recently, in search for something I could “fix,” I started jotting down notes on the “reasons people leave.” And after compiling a list of reasons people have left the church, I realized that there is no way I can fix it…

…because some people leave for the most ridiculous reasons.

Granted, some people have left for very good, healthy, positive reasons. They got a new job, moved, felt called to do something else, etc.

But some people…

* editors note: I edited  A large portion of the original post because it was inappropriate and insensitive.  Thankful for friends who are wise and willing to be honest with me  😃

At the end of the day, some people left.

So what…There are still 77,000 people within 25 minutes of us who don’t know Jesus. I’m gonna keep reaching.

Thanks for the empty seats,


  • Andy Rook

    Right on! stay the course and let's finish what you all started. I left a church, a good one, for some difficult reasons and found my home in Oasis. As I've always said those people are going to be just fine, they'll end up in another church and then maybe leave there one day too. Oasis is a place where I can feel safe bringing that 75% of the population who isn't okay and who aren't going to just find their way to another church. Let's stay jacked up and real. You guys have no idea what you've created here and how truly special it is

    August 31, 2017
  • Andrew Peters

    Stuff like this reminds me of why I like you so flipping much.

    August 31, 2017
  • Sandy B.

    It is a fluid world we live in. Of all the people Jesus touched, only about 100 were devoted and understood the mission after resurrection. I am so proud to be part of a church that allowes people to express their opinions and ideas, but ultimately stays focused and supports the teaching of Jesus. I am sad they left, I'm glad they came back....and I believe that for a season in someone's life Oasis did and will continue to make an impact not only in our community, but more importantly, God's kingdom.

    August 31, 2017
  • kevin Marks

    Bill you personally as well as Oasis as a Church have made a tremendous impact in my life and the lives of my family. I would not be where I am today in life, nor the better person I've become if not for your presence and that of the Oasis family. You, the Church, and Church membership, may not be for all people, heck who or what is? But the positive impact you have on many people like myself, and family, can not be measured or dismissed. For those that leave for some of the reasons you stated don't let that bring you down. There are many others like myself that your mission has touched in ways you don't realize. Keep holding your head high, follow your calling, and don't let the muddy waters blurr your vision of all the good you have done and continue to do. I love you Bill Rose and I am forever thankful for your friendship and presence in my life.

    August 31, 2017
  • Dori

    I always wonder what happened to people as well? I think for a pastor it's a shepherds heart. You are always going to search for "the one." If it bothers you its because you really care about each person that walks through your door. Sometimes you plant and sometimes you sow...maybe those that left are "planted."

    August 31, 2017
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